This is a list of LGBT friendly domestic violence services in the UK. If I have missed one off the list feel free to email us and let us know about them as I will be continually updating the list as I find more information.
24 hour confidential helpline for women and children experiencing domestic violence and people who want advice on how to support them. Translation services and services for deaf and hard of hearing callers are available.
If you’re unable to make the phone call then you can email them but replies will take three days instead of the immediate response you’ll get from calling. email@example.com
A confidential domestic violence helpline for male victims, open Monday to Friday (10am to 1pm, 2pm to 5pm).
0800 999 5428 (Freephone from landlines and some mobiles) or 0300 999 5428
This helpline is specifically for LGBT domestic abuse victims open on Mondays and Thursdays (10am to 8pm), and Tuesdays and Wednesdays (2pm to 5pm). It’s confidential except in cases where they have serious concern for a child at risk and will then disclose any details the caller has given them to the relevant authorities (this is a requirement under child safety legislation).
They also have an email address in case you can’t or don’t want to talk over the phone and aim to answer emails within twenty four hours firstname.lastname@example.org
Alternatively they also have an IM chat service here http://www.brokenrainbow.org.uk/help/online-chat
Confidential UK-wide helpline for any male victims of domestic abuse open Monday to Friday (10am to 1pm, 2pm to 5pm).
GBT friendly domestic violence helpline for men open 10am - 4pm Mon - Fri, plus 6pm - 9pm on Tues and Thurs. Confidential and will not appear on any phone bills, the number is free from landlines as well as these mobile networks: O2, Orange, Vodafone, Virgin, 3 and TMobile. They also welcome calls from friends or relatives seeking to help or understand.
They can also be reached by email and aim to respond in one day email@example.com
England and Wales:
Sexual violence helpline open from 12:00-2:30 PM and 7:00-9:30 PM. This is the umbrella organisations for local rape crisis centres. They provide services themselves and can direct you to a local centre. Not all centres serve men but the website provides directions to male specific services.
Men’s advice line offering support and directing victims to available services. Open:
- Monday - 10am – 4pm
- Tuesday - 10am – 4pm
- Wednesday - 10am – 1pm
020 7237 9162 Email us: RA@bedehouse.org.uk
They run a domestic violence and hate crime project called Starfish. The helpline is open 9:30 a.m. – 9.00 p.m. and they request that you call the National Domestic Violence Helpline: 0808 2000 247 in cases of an out of hours emergency.
020 7704 2040 (if you’re deaf or hard of hearing dial 18001 before the rest of the number and a typetalk operator will be brought in)
Anti-violence and anti-abuse charity that support LGBT people in the London area who’ve experienced domestic abuse, sexual violence and gender or sexuality based violence and abuse. They also support LGBT persons who have problems with the police or questions about the criminal justice system.
They provide a range of services to women and girls who have experienced any gender based violence.
Sexual violence helpline: 0808 801 0770 Opening times: Monday 10am to 12pm & 2.30pm to 4.30pm Tuesday 10am to 12pm & 6.30pm to 9pm Wednesday 10am to 12pm & 6.30pm to 9pm Thursday 10am to 12pm & 6.30pm to 9pm Friday 10am to 12pm & 2.30pm to 4.30pm Saturday 10am to 1pm
Advice line: 0808 801 0660 Our opening times are: Monday 10am to 4pm Tuesday 10am to 4pm Wednesday 10am to 4pm & 6pm to 8pm Thursday 10am to 4pm Friday 10am to 4pm
London charity for LGBT community which offers domestic abuse counselling. Info and enquiries: 020 7700 1323 or email firstname.lastname@example.org
0161 636 7525
Confidential but will show up on the phone bill. Open from 10:00 am – 4:00 pm Monday to Friday, with late opening until 7:00 pm on Tuesdays. This excludes bank holidays. On Monday and Tuesday from 10:00 am – 1:00 pm and Wednesdays from 1:00-4:00 pm they offer services in Urdu and Punjabi.
They also run a non-urgent advice email service email@example.com
They offer advice on putting together a safety plan here http://wdachoices.org.uk/stay-safe/
0808 800 0340
Twenty four hour Freephone helpline which won’t appear on your bill. They offer advice as well as help finding emergency accommodation and refuge.
Dial 18001 before the number for text phone services and 18002 before the number for a phone service for the deaf and hearing impaired.
They also offer a pet refuge service for people fleeing domestic violence who don’t want to leave pets behind http://www.wais.org.uk/viewpage.php?page_id=17
08088 01 03 02
Provides crisis support for anyone in Scotland affected by sexual violence at any time in their lives. Helpline open every day (6pm to midnight)
0300 123 2523
A national general helpline providing information and emotional support to LGBT people, their families, friends and supporters.
Open on Tuesdays and Wednesday (12 to 9pm)
What Domestic Violence is.
If you are unsure as to whether what is happening you counts as domestic abuse the UK government defines it as "Any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive or threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over who are or have been intimate partners or family members regardless of gender or sexuality. This can encompass but is not limited to the following types of abuse:
Controlling behaviour is: a range of acts designed to make a person subordinate and/or dependent by isolating them from sources of support, exploiting their resources and capacities for personal gain, depriving them of the means needed for independence, resistance and escape and regulating their everyday behaviour.
Coercive behaviour is: an act or a pattern of acts of assault, threats, humiliation and intimidation or other abuse that is used to harm, punish, or frighten their victim.”*
*This definition includes so called ‘honour’ based violence, female genital mutilation (FGM) and forced marriage, and is clear that victims are not confined to one gender or ethnic group.
Whilst this is not a legislative change, the definition will send a clear message to victims about what does constitute domestic violence and abuse." Home Office circular 003/2013
We urge you to err on the side of caution and stay safe.