Content Warning: suicide, biphobia, mental illness, rape,

So I’m on Tumblr looking for my fellow bisexuals bloggers when I see a post saying that bisexuals have straight privilege. “Bisexuals have it so easy,” they say, “because they can still love the opposite sex. They’re more accepted in society.”


It might seem so at first because while I had to kiss my boyfriend behind closed doors so we wouldn’t get mugged, no one will say anything if I held a girl’s hand out in public. But is that “straight privilege?”

The thing you don’t know is society has set up a round hole for every peg to go through, and I’m a triangle. For years I stretched and compressed myself to fit inside the hole, and I managed to fool some people, until I got tired of fooling myself. Is that privilege to you?

And yes, I have privileges. I’ll never be followed around in a store. I’ll never look suspicious in a hoodie. I’ll never have to worry whether or not the places I go will have a wheelchair ramp. But straight privilege?

Tell that to the bisexual women who experienced rape more than straight women and lesbians. Tell that to the boy in Minnesota who received death threats after coming out as bi. Tell that to the bisexuals who are more likely to suffer from depression and anxiety than straight people and gay people. Tell that to Adam Kizer, Anthony Stubb, and Alyssa Morgan. Tell that to me at sixteen when I was afraid to come out for fear of what the other kids, who were already calling me a faggot, would do to me.

Now tell me what is this “straight privilege” that you speak of?


Trav Mamone is a genderqueer bisexual Humanist writer based in Easton, MD. They , blog at, and host the Bi Any Means Podcast.